{MMYH Ep. 99} Don’t Focus On The Outcome

by Amanda Abella  - September 17, 2019

focus on the outcome

I’m continuing the series on the mindsets that you need for success. And the one that I’m going to talk about on this post is why you shouldn’t focus on the outcome. And I know that’s hard to grasp. I admit it was really hard for me to grasp in the beginning when I first heard this. But you can’t be attached to the outcome.

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Why You Shouldn’t Get Attached

So, let me give you an example because I see this happening a lot. I train people on how to do sales for their own businesses. I have a lot of trainings around sales for my private clients and also for my group coaching clients. And the area where I see people get really, really attached to whether or not something is going to work out is when they’re negotiating or when they are having some sort of a sales conversation.

They really want that money. And that is all they can think about. And it’s not from a place of, “Oh, this money would be great.” It’s from a place of, “I need this money and I need it now,”. That’s what I’m talking about. And then that kind of an attitude kind of ends up backfiring. You end up putting a show for people and then you end up like trying too hard to prove yourself.

How This All Works

I had a mentor once explain it like, you’re like a rooster who’s going around like kako doodling everywhere, trying to prove yourself and get attention and make a point, and then it backfires because people can kind of read your energy and the energy is like, this person’s desperate. 

Or another thing that happens is you say your price and someone says, “Oh my gosh, that’s too expensive.” And then suddenly you slash your price in half to try and accommodate and appease the person instead of finding out what’s actually going on. And my students all know that 95% of the time when someone says I can’t afford it, it’s bullshit. But that’s what I mean. Most people are too attached to what is going on. They’re too attached to whether or not this person says yes or no. And, they’re putting too much importance on what the other person decides to do.

So if you want to be really successful in business, and in life in general, you can’t be attached. You can’t have expectations like that. I’ve been in the game long enough by now where I know that if something doesn’t work out, it’s because there’s something better coming or there’s an adjustment that needed to be made, or maybe it’s just the wrong timing, but it has nothing to do with me as a person. 

Don’t Focus On The Outcome

If you really want to be successful, you have to start detaching from the outcome and you have to stop putting so much importance on what other people decide to do. All you can do is take care of your side of the story. Don’t focus on the outcome. Focus on what you bring to the table. 

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